If you’re moving toward a divorce in Ontario, there are going to be many things you learn along with way, things you simply couldn’t have known in advance. However, having proper perspective can often help, so it’s good to look at the things others wish they had known, giving you a view of what it will be like. Below are a few examples.
1. Children often keep quiet. They may not talk about how they feel, even when asked. Instead, you may only be able to see how they feel based on the way they act.
2. A lot of work still has to be done after the paperwork has been signed. The key first step may be getting the legal work out of the way, but life does not necessarily get easier at that point. You just have to focus on other things, like adjusting to a new way of living. Additionally, some problems that may have contributed to the divorce—like financial issues—could still exist.
3. This is not a process that should be rushed. Some people want to sprint to the end just to get it all over with. It’s better to take your time to make sure that you get the best outcome for you and for your children.
4. The holidays are going to be a challenge. Holidays are all about family, and yours has changed. To help, be sure you are with friends or other family members, and perhaps consider starting brand new traditions that are different than what you did before the split.
Along with the things noted above, be sure you understand every step of the legal process.
Source: Today, “10 things I wish I'd known before getting divorced,” Nicole Feuer, accessed Oct. 23, 2015